A good
example of which I found listening to be difficult happened last night when I
was skyping my friend. Out of the four components there were two that I've
recognized to be the most difficult at that time. They were sensing, in terms
of selective attention, and memory. Though I was distracted (which has to do
with active listening) from my phone and my own issues going on at the time, my
ear picked up on things that I found most appealing or important to me in the
conversation. I also had to keep asking my friend to repeat herself because I
was using short-term memory. Within the first sixty seconds, only a few things
got through to me. This made it difficult for the both of us because she was
frustrated that I wasn't completely listening. I could have overcome these
issues if I had completely listened to her and fully engaged in the
conversation. Instead I was too consumed by my own world and surroundings.
Thank you for sharing. I thought the subject of the four phases of listening was a great subject to touch. I agree that selective attention and short term memory may be a barrier to effective listening. With technology all around us. It makes it difficult now to concentrate on just one task. It is true that we're are now easily distracted by our own technology, therefore it is easier to have selective attention. I can imagine it is very frustrating to have poor short term memory where you have to ask a person the same thing over and over. I really appreciate you sharing some of your weak areas in listening. I think you did a wonderful job on your blog and thank you again for sharing.
ReplyDeleteHi Jinxx21,
ReplyDeleteI thought that you had a great example of a time that you found it difficult to listen. I do at times find that sensing can be difficult, especially if you are distracted at the time. I have found myself having trouble as well with the sensing part of listening when I’m with friends and I have a bunch of things that I’m worrying about all at once. I had a friend who was telling me a story and I totally zoned out and didn’t pay attention to her. I felt bad because I’m usually a good listener, but I just could grasps/sense what she was saying. I hope that your friend was able to understand your situation and want to frustrated with you afterwards.